Appreciating a Helpful Hand, Take Two

On May 2nd, 2010, the exercise I chose to do was to write a list in my gratitude journal of 3 people that have previously helped me and how they helped me. I am repeating this activity with 3 new people and/or deeds. This activity was wonderful in that it reminded me of a few of the wonderful acts of kindness bestowed on me. I have much to be grateful for.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Your actions should reflect your values. Since I need to go home and live with who I am, I don't want to get swept up in an eye for an eye mentality. Always live my life as if my children are watching me and mimicking me.

We're Different

We are individuals with different values, goals, interests and life experiences. As such, don't assume others are bothered by the same things as me. Nor, that my priorities are their priorities. I've had many people assume over the years, that I was politically the same as them, was on board with their method of child rearing or any number of topics. Why? We're all different.

Let Silence Happen

Take the pressure off myself to immediately respond in a conversation. Actively listen to others, rather than formulating a response while they speak. Then take the time when they are done, to think in silence, before responding.

Honoring My Values

Make some me time. School's out for the summer, but I still can't seem to relax and enjoy my time off from work. Since being healthy is a priority value for me, I will try and walk almost daily this summer. I walked regularly last summer, so I am confident I can challenge myself to once again repeat this activity. Getting started is the tough part, so I'll jump right in and start tomorrow morning.

Second Chances

Take advantage of second chances. For that matter, take advantage of third and fourth chances. For every missed opportunity, ( I should have, could have, would have) there will be another opportunity presented to you.

Why Don't You Know What I'm Thinking

Don't assume others, especially loved ones, understand why I am upset. Tell them. I am grateful that I value my relationship with you enough to trust you with my feelings.